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micdotcom:

Nearly 90% of waitresses are sexually harassed

Restaurant employees who work on tips are enduring an epidemic of sexual harassment in their workplaces. That’s according to an alarming new study released Tuesday by the Restaurant Opportunities Center (ROC) United that said the industry is the “single-largest source of sexual-harassment charges” with the government.

Why minimum wage and tipping is to blame | Follow micdotcom

additionally behind the “minimum wage and tipping is to blame” conclusion: base-pay seemed to correlate with how much women were likely to have experienced harassment.

awildheaven
"Women are the niggers of gender," the email said. "If you killed yourself, I wouldn’t even fuck the corpse."

I blinked at my phone, fighting simultaneous urges to hurl my phone across the room in anger and cry. Later that day, someone texted me my address — telling me they’d “See me when I least expected it.”

I haven’t been out to my car at night by myself since January 2nd.

My name is Brianna Wu. I lead a development studio that makes games. Sometimes, I write about issues in the games industry that relate to the equality of women. My reward is that I regularly have men threatening to rape and commit acts of violence against me.
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millsinabout:

read the shooter’s manifesto; it’s really an autobiography with some deranged statements towards the end about forming a new kind of government under “divine” leadership —his— in which women will be mostly starved to death and then used to breed in labs.

i don’t think there’s anything amiss about…

Couple things here I just couldn’t let slide….

- There is something amiss about calling Rodger “crazy”. You have to understand the people wielding the word and the context more than just trying to deal with the word in itself. “Crazy” is not meant, by ANYONE using it (particularly mass media), in the manner that you kinda describe here. It is purely meant as an excuse to ignore context and culture and any deeper analysis that may be offensive or challenging to a dominant culture. It has been pointed out already that those who are “mentally ill” are, far more often, the victim of abuse rather than a perpetrator of it. The most egregious example of how disgusting the media can be when using this “crazy” assertion is to jump to the conclusion that Rodger was autistic or had aspergers, as if they know this for certain and as if these are legit indicators of a violent personality. This highlights how much of their assertions of his mental state and/or health has nothing to do with professional and studied evaluation and everything to do with jumping to a conclusion that fits into the stories and mythologies about these conditions provided by a cruel, disregarding, and anti-introspective culture. This in turn allows them to ignore the larger cultural aspects that are a dangerous poison to us all. Perhaps Rodger had a serious psychological condition. Perhaps. But nobody throwing around the word “crazy” as some sort of assertion has done the investigative work to levy that sort of evaluation, nor do they care to.

- The language in his manifesto actually is what you find in MRA and PUA circles and “women-hating” regular guys DO NOT find it disturbing. I wouldn’t recommend checking out the YouTube comments on the murderer’s YouTube video, but if you did you would find plenty of men not only finding what he says reasonable, but outright calling him a “hero”. Similarly, you may have heard about the reaction on Twitter, #YesAllWomen, where many women have described the more-than-sometimes extreme and daily violence they have endured from men. Many “women-hating” (why do we have this in quotes?) regular guys have responded to these Tweets in the all-to-typical violent manner. It’s almost a relief when you see a guy being dismissive about these women, rather than making threats (almost. But fuck those guys too.). Furthermore, the “manifesto” rhetoric of Rodger is actually what you WILL find on the messageboards of those who have felt let-down by the guarantees of PUA ideal pushers and general misogynistic standards. This is not an isolated case, neither in rhetoric nor in action.

- Coming back to #YesAllWomen, if you browse the tag you will see that the violence carried out by Rodger is in no way “extreme” relative to what the larger culture allows without regular comment and, in fact, encourages. So again we have to be extra critical about how we wield the word “crazy” here. Perhaps from a young age he had fragile psychological aspects, but the violence he carried out is tragically not out of the ordinary. Rape follows the same ideas of misogynistic fantasy of Power and desire for Power as the violence of these murders. And we all know (or should know) how disgustingly common rape is (to say nothing of misogynistic daily micro and blatant aggressions). His images of violence are very mainstream, and while to keep face many in your fraternity example may balk in public to such ideas, it seems that behind closed doors (or in front of those they trust to share similar opinions) they will harbor (and all-too-often carry out) similar violent fantasies. Forget the frat boys, even the generally nice and normal guys are just like this. As one woman in the hashtag conversation pointed out, she was taught to avoid the hyper-masculine men you would think might be so steeped in the cult of masculinity as to be dangerous, but it was exactly the safe-seeming type of men who wound up abusing her. Similarly intelligence has nothing to do with it, structure and super-structure does.

- Basically: there is an element of sociopathy to this case. But be careful about how you wield this word (and even moreso of “crazy”) and be much more observant of the larger culture. If you do not recognize just how sociopathic in this regard SO MANY men are, then you likely need to do much more listening than speculating.